“THE BEST PART OF VALOR.”
The act of being discreet is certainly not the strong suit of some people. The ones of whom I am referring, are the insolent, demanding, individuals who think nothing of the feelings of others so long as their every whim is satisfied.
They are the ones who consider that the only plausible reason for doing anything should be, with their comfort and convenience in mind. They are easily upset, if and when, decisions are made without their prior approval. To put it bluntly, ‘they are right and don’t you forget it.’
Recently; an example of this thinking was related to me. Our friend, let’s call her Sarah; happened to be in charge of arranging, serving, and the clean-up, at a social event. In order to limit confusion, changes were made in the methods of, placing dishes of food, the removal of said dishes, and the clean-up which followed. For everyone concerned, these new methods worked quite well, with the exception of one individual, – Martha: (not her real name).
Martha objected to the new system; only because this was not the way ‘she’ wanted to do things. She insisted on returning to the old way regardless of the disturbance to others that the old methods had proven to cause.
Thank goodness Sarah did not relent and allow Martha to have her way, and the transition from eating to entertainment continued smoothly. However, it was not without discord as could be attested to by several witnesses. So intent was Martha to have her way, that she voiced her discontent by stating that ‘she;’ just might refrain from ‘attending any future functions,’
Adding insult to injury, Sarah noted that this decision was Martha’s to make, and regardless of her decision; ‘the show would still go on.’ This did much to calm Martha. She finally began to realize that there were more important things afloat, than the ‘boosting of her ego,’ by allowing her to do as she pleased.
Much can be learned by this dispute. That is simply; to utilize discretion when confronted with a situation that is not completely to your liking. Consider ALL the avenues of appropriate action, BEFORE jumping off the deep end. This will minimize confrontations, such as the above, and quite possibly eliminate any undue stress, brought on by insisting on having everything ‘one person’s’ way.
If the changes were wrong, they will be corrected; but even wrong ideas deserve a trial. Without new ideas, we cannot have progress. Without progress, we are more or less dead-in-the-water.
If you have a new idea, do not hesitate to suggest it. However, do not “DEMAND” it. Remember: The horse that is led to water, ‘cannot be forced to drink.’
Think about it: Be ‘discreet,’ and your valor will overshadow your sense of being ‘self-centered.’
Now, that wasn’t so hard to do, was it?
“It’s not easy to ‘take charge,’of the person; who has been elected to be, ‘in charge.” Dj.